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How to Help Kids Cope with Separation

Posted on : July 2, 2018, By:  Erlina Perez

The major changes that occur in their life after you and your spouse have decided to separate don’t impact just you.  They also impact their children. Separation and divorce can be especially painful for children who have kids, and it is necessary for both parties to get on the same page as much as possible about helping children to cope with these many changes in their life.  Divorce is almost always stressful for those children who do not want their parents to separate, and this can lead to physical and mental manifestations. This is why it is so important that every divorce will affect the children involved. Some children may experience anxiety and insecurity, particularly in light of consistent parental discord.  

Parents should always focus on the child’s emotional needs, and do as much as possible to promote the children’s resilience. Parents should also keep heated discussions, physical conflict, and legal talk away from their kids. Additionally, it is very important for parents to check whether or not the children may be showing signs of insecurity or anxiety.  

Counseling may be required. Children should also be given appropriate notice before a parent moves out, while also reassuring the separation of the divorce is not the child’s fault, and that the decision has been based on the relationship between the two adults, and not the children. Finally, all children should be reassured that both parents will continue to remain involved in their lives.  This can help to ensure that all parties who have been involved in the decision to get a divorce have the support of an experienced lawyer and other necessary professionals.

It’s okay to recognize that even as a parent, your life has changed dramatically. You might need the support of outside professionals such as a therapist to help you figure out how to move forward. Remember that even amidst the emotional turmoil of your own decision that children will have a harder time figuring out how to move on. It’s your job to consistently support their needs, too.