Few divorces are truly easy, even in cases where they’re necessary or in the best interests of everyone involved. If you and your spouse disagree on matters related to the divorce, this means it becomes contested. Contested divorces tend to be costlier and more stressful than uncontested divorces. Here are some ways to avoid issues in a contested divorce and where to get legal assistance.
Think About Compromising If You Can
Generally, compromise is necessary in a divorce. However, what you issues do and don’t concede on is ultimately up to you. It’s important to decide in advance what might matter less to you than other issues; those are the ones you should offer up a compromise on first. You should also be aware of issues that are more important to you and that you’d rather not concede on; these are the ones that you should save for tough negotiation.
Don’t Engage In Verbal Communication
Important decisions and agreements should always be made in writing after you decide to get a divorce, whether it’s over text, email, or another form of communication that creates a paper trail. What you don’t want is to create an agreement with your ex that they later renege on and you have no way to show evidence that you were not in the wrong.
For example, if you verbally agree to drop your child off two hours past the end of your visitation time, your ex could later say that you never contacted them and attempt to have you charged with parental kidnapping. Having “paper” records protects you and your family during your divorce.
Evaluate If Mediation May Be an Option For You
While mediation may not be an option for individuals embroiled in a highly contentious divorce, if you and your spouse are at least on speaking terms, it may be a good option to consider. Mediation is cheaper, less time consuming, and less stressful than divorce litigation.
You can expect to meet in a comfortable conference room-like setting with your attorney, your spouse and their attorney, and a third party mediator who will help facilitate negotiations with your ex and put them in writing to submit to the court for you.
Call a Bergen County Divorce Attorney Now For Family Legal Support
Reach out to the Erlina Perez Law Firm, LLC for a consultation now by calling (201) 880-7070.